Tuesday, January 25, 2011

I may have a [small] problem....


I'm addicted to craft blogs.

I happened across a blog called I am Momma....Hear me Roar! a few weeks ago...and since then I've slid down a slippery slope.

For the last 4 years, my obsession has been babywearing and baby carriers...however J is almost 5, and we don't wear any more. {not that I wouldn't looooove to...but my back just can't handle it anymore. AND he's about half my height now, so it's quite a sight to see} While I do still run the local group, it was time for a new hobby.

Since finding Cheri's blog and reading through almost every post she's ever made...I've added about 8 other blogs to my favourites list. Most are crafty blogs, some are just inspirational or good reads. Some are home to awesome bloggers whom I want to get to know. Regardless of who they are, they've all made their way in to my life.

So, why is this a problem....well let me tell you. I went from having shelves upon shelves of baby carriers to having shelves and buckets and baskets, more shelves and bags FULL of craft supplies.

I've got bleach pens, beads, plain shirts (and onesies!). I've got wooden boxes (and letters!), and scrap book paper. Mod Podge, gorilla glue, hot glue and the cutest little push pins. I've got ribbons galore, embroidery floss and fabric.

I have a 'to do' list a mile long with project ideas from these blogs. When will I get to them? I'm not sure, but when I do...I've got all the supplies I need. [However, that won't stop me from making use of the Michaels coupon this week!]

So...you may be thinking...who are these bloggers? Below is a list of most of them...and there will be a perma-list at the bottom of the blog for easy access...until I can figure out how to make blogs have multiple pages.

Tatertots and Jello
a time for everything
all is well
michaela noelle designs
love stitched
Shanty to Chic
Little Miss Mommma
At Second Street

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

75 ways to be unhappy

A wonderful mama on  posted a link to this website on one of the online communities I participate in. On it, there was a list of 75 ways to stay unhappy. Reading through the list was eye opening. I counted roughly 35 items that describe me to a T. Others that may apply in some circumstances and a few that didn't fit at all. 

Obviously, this is unacceptable. So, I'll change it. I'll make a conscious effort to do the opposite of the items on the list, to ensure that my forever is happy. 

75 Ways to Stay Unhappy Forever.
  1. Dwell on things that happened in the past.
  2. Obsess yourself with all the things that might happen in the future.
  3. Complain about problems instead of taking the necessary steps to resolve them.
  4. Fear change and resist it.
  5. Work hard, do your best and then condemn yourself for not achieving perfection.
  6. Belittle yourself.
  7. Hang out with other people who belittle you.
  8. Try to control everything and then worry about the things you can’t control.
  9. Lie to yourself and those around you.
  10. Keep doing the same thing over and over again.
  11. Be lazy and follow the path of least resistance.
  12. Hold onto anger.  Never forgive anyone.
  13. Always be right.  Never let anyone else be more right than you.
  14. Compare yourself unfavorably to those who you feel are more successful.
  15. Let small issues snowball into big problems.
  16. Never learn anything new.
  17. Never take responsibility for your own actions.
  18. Blame everyone around you.
  19. Don’t ask for directions and don’t ask questions.
  20. Don’t let anyone help you.
  21. Quit when the going gets tough.
  22. Be suspicious.  Trust no one.
  23. Get four hours of sleep every night and convince yourself that it’s enough.
  24. Never throw anything way.  Even if you don’t use it, hold onto it.
  25. Say “yes” to everyone.  Fill all your time with commitments.
  26. Try to be everyone’s friend.
  27. Multitask, multitask, multitask!  Do everything at once.
  28. Never spend any time alone.
  29. Don’t help others unless you have to.  Do only the things that benefit you directly.
  30. Hang out with people who complain about everything.
  31. Focus on what you don’t want to happen.
  32. Fear the things you don’t fully understand.
  33. Always seek external validation before you consider yourself good enough.
  34. Take everything and everyone in life seriously.
  35. Spend your life working in a career field you aren’t passionate about.
  36. Focus on the problems.
  37. Think about all the things you don’t have.
  38. Read or watch lots of depressing news from broadcast media.
  39. Set lofty goals for yourself and never do anything to achieve them.
  40. Never exercise.
  41. Only eat junk food and fried food.
  42. Never check-up on your health.
  43. Setup your lifestyle so it revolves around money.
  44. Spend more than you earn and rack up lots of financial debt.
  45. Don’t say what you mean.  Don’t mean what you say.
  46. Frown.
  47. Never tell anyone how you feel or what you’re thinking.
  48. Make sure everything you do impresses someone else.
  49. Always put your own needs on the back burner.
  50. Get involved in other people problems and make them your own.
  51. Make others feel bad about themselves.
  52. Watch TV for several hours every day.
  53. Gamble often.
  54. Stay in the same place.  Don’t travel.
  55. Don’t play, just work.
  56. Let your hobbies go.
  57. Let your close relationships go.
  58. Never finish what you start.
  59. Take everything personally.
  60. Do lots of drugs.  Drink lots of alcohol.
  61. Never say, “I’m sorry.”  Never say, “I love you.”
  62. Don’t work hard at anything.
  63. Always wait until the last minute.
  64. Believe that, no matter what, you are entitled to things.
  65. Let others make decisions for you.
  66. Remember the insults.  Forget the compliments.
  67. Let it all bottle up inside.
  68. Rely on others for everything.
  69. Fail to plan.
  70. Don’t dream.
  71. Don’t think about the future at all.
  72. Always disregard other people’s opinions and suggestions.
  73. Make promises you can’t keep.
  74. Don’t decide on anything, ever.
  75. Just keep going and going and going.  And never ever stop.
Dale Carnegie once said, “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy.  It’s what you think about.”

Think happy thoughts my friends. :) 

Thursday, January 13, 2011

A new year, a fresh start.

New year resolutions are in full swing and I may very well be the only person who doesn't have one. Well, okay, I do have one but it's not your usual "lose weight""spend less, save more" type resolution. Mine is more complex, less measurable and more internal. Sure, losing weight would be nice, saving money would be fabulous but I know those are resolutions I wouldn't stick to. So I came up with something a little bit more personal, something I've needed for a long time but never acknowledged. But, its time. I need this. I want this. Now feels right.

My resolution, my goal for 2011 is to be happy. In 2011, I'm going to do more things for ME rather than for other people. I'm going to slow down and enjoy my life. I'm going to learn how to say no when something doesn't fit in to my schedule or would add too much stress to my life. I'm going to spend time exploring the world around me with the boy. I'm going to craft more, scrapbook more and spend more time in the kitchen. I'm going to reconnect with real life friends. In the last 5 years I've become dependant on my online friends and communities and it's time to take a step back and reconnect with the people that really matter.

What does this mean? Less time online. Less time spent in online communities. Less facebook. Less time trying to take over the world. More focus on the things that really matter.

 However, I have started this blog so I cannot give up the internet entirely. The purpose of this blog is to record the next 52 weeks, the next 365 days of my pursuit of happiness.

I hope you'll follow along and join in with me. It's not going to be all sunshine and rainbows around here, but by the end of 2011 I will be a different person. A happier, well rounded and reconnected person.